Harsh Wardhan

How To Stop Being Vulnerable In A Relationship

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

Being vulnerable in a relationship means having the strength to expose your weak side to your partner.

For example, talking about your fears, struggles, and failures. You feel no hesitancy about crying in front of your partner. In fact, crying in front of them makes you stronger, emotionally and mentally.

Being vulnerable can also play a significant role in deepening understanding and strengthening the bond with your partner.

So, the question is: Should you stop being vulnerable in your relationship?

The answer is ‘No.’

Vulnerability should never …

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My Husband Gets Angry When I Try To Talk To Him

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

Reciprocating attention, communicating, and sharing feelings are some of the most important aspects of a relationship. They keep the relationship interesting and free of misunderstandings, and the partners are hooked on each other.

But if your husband refuses to talk to you, or worse, gets angry when you try to speak to him, it can make you feel neglected and worried at the same time. You wonder if you did something that annoyed him, or if it’s something else. As they grow more distant, you start feeling lonely and even more worried.

The reason behind such behaviour by your husband can be many.

He may be trapped in a negative emotion, such as fear, stress, or insecurity. When you try to talk about it, he gets triggered and erupts like a volcano.

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Why Am I Scared To Talk About My Feelings To My Boyfriend?

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

Do you sometimes feel that you stop yourself from talking about certain things with your boyfriend?

Feeling scared to talk about your feeling to your boyfriend may be confusing. Why would you be sceptical about sharing your life with someone you love the most? Someone who is meant to listen to you, support you emotionally, and make you feel good about yourself?

But you are not alone in facing this dilemma. Almost everyone at some point of time in their relationship feels this way. The only difference is that some people know the reason, some don’t.

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How To Apologize After Sabotaging A Relationship

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

Sabotaging a relationship, especially a promising one, can fill you with an ocean of regret. It’s normal to feel this way, especially when you hurt your partner and messed up something special.

It may feel impossible to recover the lost relationship, but there is a simple way out—an honest apology!

An apology is powerful. It can not only recover what you lost but also make it better than before. When you apologize, you improve, both as a person and as a partner. This marks the beginning of a truly great relationship.

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My Husband Gets Angry When I Disagree With Him – Here’s What to Do

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

It’s not an overstatement when I say disagreements are the soul of any relationship. When both partners have an equal say in the situations they face, it speaks volumes about the depth and strength of the relationship.

If your partner gets angry when you disagree with him, it means he doesn’t consider your opinion important enough. He thinks he is the right one, and it’s his opinion only that matters.

For example, when deciding on the venue for the weekend date, if he rejects your choice of restaurant, it shows he doesn’t value your opinions or choice. On the contrary, he shouts at you for doubting his decision.

When your choices don’t matter in your relationship, you feel worthless. It feels like you are in the relationship only to obey, not to be loved.

But when rejection of your choice is expressed in anger, it hurts even more. It feels like your partner doesn’t even have the basic respect for you in their heart. The momentary toxicity feels painfully suffocating and demeaning.

When your husband gets angry over your disagreement, there may be simple causes.

First, maybe he considers himself the “master” in the relationship, with greater knowledge and capability.

But such behaviour may also result from stress and the feeling of ‘paucity of time’ to make a decision.

Whatever the reason, your husband’s anger at your disagreement causes severe damage to your relationship.

First of all, it makes you feel unequal and overlooked in the relationship.

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Why Do I Get Mad At My Boyfriend When I Miss Him?

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

Getting mad at your boyfriend when you miss him means dumping the frustration of your loneliness on him. You may get angry at minor disagreements over the phone or outrightly blame him for ignoring you or not spending time with you.

Some other signs you get mad at your boyfriend when you miss him are frowning when you’re alone or ignoring his calls. You may also prepare yourself to ask him several difficult questions when you meet him next time.

There are many reasons you might get angry at your partner when you miss them.

It can be the frustration of feelings of extreme loneliness or insecurity—When your partner is not with you, you are scared of losing them to someone else, which triggers the rage.

You may think that your partner is responsible for the distance between you, for example, if they have chosen a job in a different city.

You may also doubt your partner’s intentions and believe they give excuses or don’t want to spend time with you.

It may also be a simple fact that, as humans, we tend to get mad at the people we love the most.

It may also be the beginning of anger issues due to suppressed emotions that make you get mad at your boyfriend for missing him.

Whatever the reason, the whole situation is highly volatile to you emotionally. First, you go through the pain of missing your boyfriend and then have to experience the guilt of getting mad at him. It’s like a double blow to you, where you end up feeling like the culprit.

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My Partner Gets Angry When I Make A Small Mistake: What Do I Do?

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

When your partner gets angry at your minor mistakes, it means they impulsively lash out at you when you don’t meet their set standards or expectations.

They may say hurtful words when you mistakenly spill a little water on the floor. Or they may get upset and shout at you when you cook slightly differently than what they like. Or they might call you “good for nothing” when you forget a household task like bringing in the mail.

Some signs that your partner gets angry at your small mistakes are them getting visibly irritated when they could have easily avoided it, shouting or insulting you without caring about your feelings, or ‘shutting you out’ with the silent treatment that feels like a mini break-up.

There can be both positive and negative reasons behind your partner’s anger at your little mistakes.

The positive reasons are unintentional and beyond your partner’s control. For example, untaught values in childhood, perfectionism, stress, or anger issues. These positive reasons don’t make your partner a bad person, per se.

The negative ones, on the other hand, might be intentional and signal a personality issue. For example, insensitivity towards one’s partner’s feelings, a natural urge to be dominating in the relationship, a lack of boundaries causing disrespect towards one’s partner, or simply not valuing or caring about your partner. These negative reasons may indicate that anger is a deeper personality trait in your partner, which might be more challenging to address.

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My Boyfriend Cried At The Thought of Losing Me: What It Means And What You Should Do

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

Crying at the thought of losing someone means that they hold a special place in your life. You are deeply attached to them and can’t imagine your life without them. When told to do so, you drown yourself in an ocean of sadness and hopelessness.

This is what your boyfriend might be going through.

So, even when you joke about leaving him, he might get all serious. His face may turn pale and expressionless, he may suddenly get up and leave the room, or he mayn’t be able to help but start crying in front of you.

There can be two possible reasons behind your boyfriend welling up at the thought of you leaving them.

First, maybe your boyfriend deeply loves you and does not want to let you go.

Second, he may be too emotional or even insecure in the relationship, and the thought of losing you scares him more than it should.

Seeing your boyfriend cry to be with you might generate a cocktail of emotions within you.

On one hand, you may feel happy that your boyfriend loves you so much. On the other hand, you may be concerned about his emotional health and well-being.

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I Sabotaged My Relationship By Being Controlling – Here Is What To Do

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

Sometimes we try to impose our ideas, principles, or plans on our partners, only to hurt the relationship.

For example, we may tell them what to eat, where to spend the weekends, what to wear, who to and who not to meet, and sometimes, even how to feel. It may be unintentional, but in most cases, it doesn’t end up well. We lose that special someone and are left lonely and sad.

Some signs of destructive control in a relationship are repeatedly labeling your partner as “wrong” or “silly,” overly criticizing them, and forcefully pushing them to follow your ways.

It may happen for a variety of reasons. It may be due to facing controlling parents, exes, or even bosses, having a naturally dominating personality, or being under constant stress or overwhelm. Sometimes, it may also stem from perfectionism or the fear that things will go wrong or be “out of order.”

Relationship sabotage isn’t the only, or even the immediate, repercussion of being controlling. When a partner is controlling, the relationship goes through a series of turmoil before it eventually falls apart.

The urge to control creates resentment in both partners, causes physical distance and emotional unavailability, and leads to constant arguments and ugly conflicts, pushing the relationship to the brink.

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My Partner Gets Angry When I Ask Questions About Their Ex

What To Do When Your Partner Gets Angry When You Ask Questions About Their Ex

Relationship Advice And Communication / Harsh Wardhan

Misunderstandings and arguments stemming from an ex are common in relationships.

Out of curiosity or for general knowledge, you may ask your partner questions like ‘How did your ex look?’ ‘What kind of relationship did you two share?’ or ‘Why did you break up with them?’ But instead of answering them calmly, they might get mad at you.

Some signs of your partner getting mad when you ask them questions about their ex are:

They hear you but choose to ignore your questions
They walk out of the room with a red face
They lash out at you and ask you not to ask such questions

There may be many possible reasons behind their anger. They might not want to revisit their past, might not be comfortable talking to you about it, or might be afraid it could ruin your relationship.

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