Harsh Wardhan

To put it straight—it’s possible to learn how to deal with a partner who is not affectionate and turn them into an affectionate one.

Affection is a fundamental need in a relationship. It is what you get into a relationship for in the first place!

Affection is the proof of the presence of love in a relationship. When your partner misses you when you are not around, holds you tightly in their arms, or is just there when you need them emotionally, it’s affection. If love is the source, affection is the river that flows out of it.

If you do not receive affection from your partner, you must first think whether they find it difficult to show affection or if they are entirely unaffectionate. 

If you feel they try but feel stuck and thus retreat, it’s a sign they are affectionate but are struggling to find a way to show affection. 

However, if they make no effort whatsoever to comfort you and are not affectionate, it may be a personality trait.

But having an unaffectionate personality still doesn’t mean your partner doesn’t love you. It may mean their way of expressing affection or love language is different from what you expect. For example, they may consider financial security a way to show affection, while you may expect emotional closeness as affection.