The Real Meaning of A Self Love Challenge

Sometimes, all you need to unlock infinite self love for yourself is to take up that self love challenge.

Nature creates each one of us with the ability to love ourselves unconditionally.

But during our lives, we get tangled in various kinds of negativities like fear, anger, & stress, and sadness, to name a few.

Due to these negativities, our focus shifts away from developing and enhancing self love within ourselves and in our lives.

With time, these negativities create such a stronghold within us that the only way to overcome them and claw our way back into self love is to challenge our way out of it.

This is what a self love challenge means.

The Wrong Notion Associated With Self Love Challenge

Thus, a self love challenge means challenging ourselves to flush out negativities so that we can rebuild self love within ourselves.

But many people believe that a self love challenge is the ability to do an activity that makes us happy, for eg. buying flowers for ourselves.

Happiness and feeling right should come naturally to you.

You should be able to do the things you like doing without any external push or challenge.

When happiness and self love activities themselves become a challenge, it means that something is not right at the very foundation of your life.

This anomaly relates to the negativities that have hijacked you at your core.

So, we don’t need to challenge ourselves to do the things we like.

What we need to do is to remove the negativities within us by the way of challenging ourselves to overcome them.

When you succeed in doing this, self love activities and happiness would come naturally to you.

Thus, we need to challenge ourselves to break the shackles of these negativities one by one.

We need to take up the self love challenge.

Targeting The Actual Problem

But these negative traits or emotions are just the symptoms, the disease lies in our past experiences.

Thus, instead of working directly on these negativities and trying to eliminate them, we need to target their underlying causes.

For eg. fear may be a negative emotion that is present in everyone. 

But everyone cannot do the same things, like adventure sports, to counter and eliminate fear from their systems.

Even if they do and succeed at it, their “success” would be short-lived and in some time fear would come back to haunt them.

So, we need to challenge ourselves to confront and eliminate the cause of the fear within us.

That is how fear or any other negative emotion can be rooted out of our lives.

And that’s what a self love challenge means i.e. to face our fears and thus eliminate negativities out of our lives.

Self Love Challenge And Its 3 Steps

The real self love challenge has 3 simple steps.

The first step is to track down the main negative emotions within you that act as obstacles to your self love.

Once you know these negative emotions or traits, the next step is to find their respective underlying causes.

And upon getting hold of these underlying causes, demolishing them to finally be free of that negative emotion. 

And once you are free of that negative emotion, you will be closer to the ability to love yourself.

Self love activities would become natural like a flowing river for you.

So, let’s begin with the first step of the self love challenge.

Finding Out The Main Negative Emotions Within You

The first step of the self love challenge is to find out the main negative emotions within you.

Knowing the main negative emotions that trouble you isn’t a very difficult task.

You can observe yourself during the day or the past week and come to know about all the negative emotions you have. 

The biggest negative emotions within you easily show up in your day-to-day life.

To make things easier for you, you should know that the most common negative emotions are fear, anxiety, guilt, loneliness, helplessness, hate, anger, jealousy, and sadness.

If these negative emotions have gotten deeply ingrained within you, you may not be able to notice them in real time.

Thus, what you can do is think of all the major incidents during the day and then analyze them closely.

See what you shouldn’t have done but you have become compulsive of doing.

Then, think about why you did those things.

Like this, zero in on the major negative traits you currently harbor.

If you aren’t able to think or analyze the major incidents during the day, you may even record them by putting cameras in the places where you spend most of your time during the day.

This should do the job.

But if still you find it difficult to track down your negative traits, you may take the help of your partner or a friend and ask them to locate your negative emotions for you.

You may also discuss the negative traits they come up with.

It’s because you need to realize that you do harbor these negativities within yourself.

Only when you are convinced that you have those negative emotions within you, can you move on to the next step of the self love challenge?

Find The Respective Underlying Causes

The second step of the self love challenge is to find out the respective underlying causes for each negative emotion of yours.

When you are convinced and aware of all the major negative emotions you have, it’s time to find out when and why they developed within you.

Think and find out the biggest negative emotions that reside within you.

Start with it.

Think of the possible reasons for it.

Generally, most of the negative emotions have their roots in your past, more specifically, in your childhood.

So, revisit your childhood memories and try to find an explanation for the biggest negative emotion within you.

It may be due to a particular person or a particular incident or a series of similar incidents like bullying at school that may have triggered it.

Remember, do not get into blaming or cursing that person at this point.

We just need to find the reason for your biggest negative emotion and deal with nothing else at this stage.

Also, remember not to blame yourself for your biggest negative emotion.

You cannot create and harbor a negative emotion without an external trigger or stimuli.

Moreover, when we are small, we are more susceptible to getting trapped by negative emotions as compared to when we become adults.

Thus, it’s not your fault!

Hence, revisiting your childhood and scanning it closely would give you the underlying cause for your biggest negative emotion.

If you still don’t find it, it’s possible that the underlying reason happened at a time much later.

Generally, as adults, negative emotions get trapped within us, after an accident or a traumatic incident like losing someone close to you.

Also, it may happen during a severe illness or disease that may also be life-threatening. 

Think of all the possible incidents that may have made you trap your biggest negative emotion within yourself.

You can repeat the same procedure for all the other major negative emotions within you and find out their underlying causes.

When you can locate the underlying reason for your biggest negative emotion, you are now ready to go after demolishing it and hence making self love obvious phenomena in your life.

You are ready to move on to the next step of the self love challenge. 

Demolishing The Reason Forever

The third step of the self love challenge is to demolish the reason for your negative emotions forever.

When you know the reason behind your biggest negative emotion, you have to do something about it.

You have to act on it and make it stop being a problem for you in your mind.

This is the main step of the self love challenge.

But the incident is now in the past.

What do we do about it?

We can do a lot of things with it to end its negative influence on us.

First of all, one thing needs to be clear in your mind which is that it wasn’t your mistake.

And even if it was, you were just a child with a still-evolving intelligence.

So, do not blame yourself for the incident.

Next, if it was no one’s fault and the incident just happened naturally, then you just need to see the positive side of it.

As children, we get easily scared and tend to see only the wrong side of bad incidents.

But upon growing up, as a mature person, we can see the whole picture and thus the positive side of it.

So, try to see what benefits you derived from the incident. 

It’s possible that a person who was bullied at school was shifted to another school.

Now, as a child, he might have seen it as a negative thing because he had to leave his friends in that school.

But as an adult, he will be able to see that the new school to which he was shifted had a much better education system and teachers that helped him become a class topper and later a successful professional.

As an adult, apart from ‘more maturity’ we also have the ‘convenience of time’ as an advantage.

Since the incident was way back in the past, we can see clearly what happened then and where it has taken us today.

And in the long run, almost everything becomes okay.

Thus, see the positive side of your incident. 

Try and find as many positives as possible out of that incident.

When you realize the presence of these positives, the negativity fades away, hence freeing you.

If it was a person who did something bad to you, you can find him and talk to him now.

Generally, after so many years, people realize and accept their mistakes as they become wiser than before.

So, when the person apologizes to you, you would feel vindicated and hence freed of that horrible incident or series of incidents.

You can forgive him or her which sets you free and on course to loving yourself.

And even if he isn’t all-wise now, his unethical ways must have led him to a bad life.

Not that you are happy about it, but it does prove that it was he who was on the wrong path and not you.

And that is enough to set you free.

Another way to free yourself of that past incident is to do some social work in that direction. 

When the person who was bullied in school would spread awareness and campaigns against bullying in many schools, the burden that he has been carrying on his chest would then be relieved.

The realization that he has saved many children from bullying will overcome his own experience of being bullied.

You can also use positive affirmations or journalling to free yourself of the ghosts of the past.

Thus, one way or the other, you would be able to demolish the negativity surrounding the incident that trapped your biggest negative emotion within you.

And upon this happening, your self love challenge would be completed.

The World of Self Love Opens For You

Your self love challenge is your key to the world of self love.

Upon completing the self love challenge that busts the negativity in your life, you would then become able to love yourself unconditionally in a very natural way.

And the self love activities will start flowing out of you effortlessly. 

Thus, completing your self love challenge successfully will open the world of self love within you.

In this self love world of yours, you will be able to create everything you want in life.

You would be capable of love, happiness, and success of an amount you cannot even imagine.

The world of self love is made of everything that you have ever wanted.

So, wait no longer, take up your self love challenge today and set out to change your world for the best forever.