Men With Low Self Esteem And 12 Clear Traits They Possess 

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Low Self Esteem In Men Is A Reality

Believe it or not, not only are men with low self esteem a reality, but their numbers are also increasing fast.

Let’s begin by understanding self-esteem first.

Self-esteem is an essential attribute for any human being.

It stands for self-worth, self-respect, and confidence in yourself and your abilities.

Generally, it’s thought that men are full of self-esteem and self-honor.

The rich and successful have it naturally, and the struggling use their self-esteem to build themselves up.

But what if I tell you that the story is precisely the opposite of this general perception?

A considerable proportion of American men currently struggle with low self-esteem.

So, if you are trying to date a man, are already in a relationship, or want to know about a man’s self-esteem status, you need to watch him closely.

Some subtle signs tell you if a man has low self-esteem.

Knowing these signs may help you decide whether to date a man.

It may also help you detect low self-esteem in your partner so that you can help him with it.

So, let’s find out the signs of men with low self esteem.

12 Signs Of Men With Low Self Esteem

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Twelve signs help you spot men with low self esteem.

They Live A Reserved & Unsocial Life

The first sign of men with low self esteem is that they are reserved and do not like socializing much.

Men who have low self-esteem have a shallow judgment of themselves.

They feel they are not good at anything and inferior to others.

So, they fear that going out, meeting people, and talking to them may lead to things that might bring out their weaknesses in public.

It may lead to people judging them harshly and even insulting them.

Men with low self esteem fear that such traumatic incidents might cause their self-esteem to fall even lower.

It might make their life even more challenging and painful.

So, they keep themselves reserved and out of public engagements and dealings.

They Are Overly Negative

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The second sign of men with low self esteem is that they are overly pessimistic.

Men having low self esteem are low on self-confidence.

Due to this state, they have millions of questions about everything.

And sometimes, all these questions come to them all at once, which overwhelms and frustrates them.

They cannot find answers to these questions, becoming a source of discontent and negativity.

So, they only see all the mistakes people around them are making or a million ways in which things can go wrong.

They also have a negative self-perception, which causes them to constantly talk negatively about their life, career, and future.

They Are Over-Cautious In Their Approach

The next sign of men with low self esteem is that they are over-cautious in their approach.

Men who have low self-esteem are also full of fear and uncertainty in their minds.

They are scared of things going out of control and wrong.

So, they do things with extra layers of caution and protection.

Men with low self esteem are also ultra-sensitive, and even if a small thing goes wrong in their plan, they start panicking.

They do not have a plan B while doing the most critical tasks.

It is why, as soon as any challenge breaches their caution, they give up altogether.

They Are Wannabe Perfectionists

The next sign of men with low self esteem is that they are wannabe perfectionists.

Whatever task men with low self esteem take up, they see it as an opportunity to raise their self-esteem and worth.

So, they either try too hard or start doing too much, which results in a low or negligible success ratio.

Due to this, not only do the tasks fail, and their endeavors go to waste, but their self-esteem and confidence also fall to a new low.

They Are Inconsistent In Their Efforts

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The next sign of men with low self esteem is that they are inconsistent in their efforts.

Men who have low self esteem are also moody and are generally in a bad mood.

So, although they may start a new task, project, or endeavor, they cannot stick to them.

They make lofty promises or set high objectives when they are in a good mood, but as soon as their mood worsens, they give up all their plans and commitments.

Thus, they are irregular & inconsistent, and they keep changing paths that don’t lead them anywhere.

They Are Always Complaining

The next sign of men with low self esteem is that they are complaining.

Men who have low self-esteem have low capabilities and expectations of themselves.

So, they expect a lot from others and get angry with them whenever they let these men down.

They complain to people about being insensitive, inconsiderate, and uncaring about their needs, feelings, or expectations.

The nature of work they expect others to do for them is also often superhuman or impossible.

Thus, they are mostly unhappy or frustrated with people, especially with their family or partners, as they have greater expectations from them.

They Have A Habit To Sabotage Their Good

The next sign of men with low self esteem is that they are in the habit of self-sabotage.

Men with low self-esteem do not believe they deserve good things like love or success.

So, when they sense they are getting close to any such thing, they get scared and end their chances.

They do this because they subconsciously know that holding on to good things requires high self-esteem.

But since they do not have it, they will lose the good thing, which will cause them immense suffering and agony.

So, to avoid going through the pain of losing something good, they sabotage their chances of achieving it.   

They Have A Fear Of Failure

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The next sign of men with low self esteem is their fear of failure.

Men with low self-esteem believe they do not have it in them to reach success.

They want to succeed, but their desperation is so great that it turns into a paralyzing fear.

And as soon as they reach anywhere close to success, this fear starts rising within them.

It increases the frequency and intensity of self-doubt and negative self-talk to repel them from success.

Ultimately, this fear of failure in men with low self esteem becomes the reason for their failure.

They Keep Failing Repeatedly

The next sign of men with low self esteem is constancy of repeated failures in life.

Men who have low self-esteem remain mentally weak and skilfully deficient.

They do not have the calm, patience, or temperament needed for success.

So, they mostly fail in all areas of life, including family, relationships, and professional endeavors.

Their low self-esteem prevents them from being their true selves, which keeps them from success.

They Are Diffident

The next sign of men with low self esteem is their diffidence.

Diffidence is a behavior in which a person acts politely, not naturally, but because he lacks self-confidence due to some underlying weakness.

Men with low self esteem are timid when dealing with people, especially those in high positions.

When alone, they are fearful, negative, and frustrated, but when they have to interact socially, they become polite.

And the cause of this politeness is not their courteous nature but their low self esteem.

They Are Gullible

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The next sign of men with low self esteem is that they are gullible.

Anyone can easily influence or manipulate men with low self esteem.

Since they aren’t confident in themselves, people easily influence men with low self esteem to manipulate their choices and preferences. 

Anybody, especially the prominent or influential people in their lives, has greater control over them.

Men with low self esteem trust others more than themselves, which makes them highly vulnerable.

They Are Indecisive

The final sign of men with low self esteem is indecision, especially in important matters. 

Men with low self-esteem crumble under pressure and get highly indecisive.

They cannot make a firm decision that can change their lives.

In a given situation, all options look equally attractive and beneficial to them. 

Thus, they get confused when confronted with a challenging situation or asked to make a big decision.

But when they don’t have a choice, they make the wrong decision, which makes them even more scared and indecisive in the future.

It also makes their already low self esteem fall to an even lower level.

Help Men With Low Self Esteem

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Spotting men with low self esteem is essential for two very different reasons.

It can help you avoid such men or track them to lend a helping hand.

If you decide to help men with low self esteem, you should change their mental conditioning with love, support, and care.

In most cases, men’s social conditioning is responsible for their low self-esteem.

You must help them undo that social conditioning or unlearn it.

End the loneliness in their lives and turn them from being a failure into a thriving and vibrant personality.

Help them find self-love to make love blossom in your life.

Helping men with low self esteem will help you raise your self-respect.

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