The Vicious Circle of Self-Doubt And Overthinking
Self-doubt and overthinking are exactly the things we don’t want in our lives.
A high quality of life needs a high level of self-confidence.
When you have faith in your abilities, you can make impossible tasks possible.
But if you are filled with self-doubt, you are lost and there is no way in sight to redeem yourself.
When you are full of self-doubt, you are not your true self.
You don’t know what to do and whether your efforts will be enough to bring the results you want.
Every action of yours is full of doubts, confusion, and chaos in your mind.
Self-doubt doesn’t come alone, it also brings in overthinking which increases your problem manifolds.
When in self-doubt, a person either takes half-hearted actions or no actions at all.
When you do not act, you “act” with your thoughts a lot.
That is to say, you start overthinking.
Self-doubt & overthinking together lead to the creation of many simultaneous and overlapping unhealthy questions in your mind.
These questions haunt and trouble you and weave a trap around your mind.
If you try to find answers to these questions, counter questions keep coming up to keep you in the trap.
All these counter questions keep rising like a tsunami of concerns which drag you into negativity and helplessness.
This is when you stop trying to find answers to those questions and come out of overthinking and self-doubt.
And when you do not try to come out, you keep sinking into fear, ultimately drowning in negativity.
Thus, the trap of self-doubt and overthinking is a vicious circle that doesn’t let you come out of its mess.
The Way Out of Self-Doubt And Overthinking
But there is still a way out of self-doubt and overthinking.
You have to target the root cause of the problem to pull self-doubt out of yourself.
When self-doubt and overthinking are removed, you will be filled with self-confidence and self love.
But to fill yourself with self love, first, you have to show some self love and take measures to promote it within yourself.
So, what’s the root cause of self-doubt that you need to target?
There are many possible causes of self-doubt within you.
We have to find out the main cause and take measures to sweep it off its feet.
Causes of Self-Doubt And Overthinking
Some of the possible causes of self-doubts are:
- Anxiety or stress
- Lack of belief in your abilities
- Fear of the uncertain/unknown
- Lack of skill
- Lack of self-belief
- Trying to be a perfectionist
You have to find the cause of your self-doubt from this list and work towards removing it.
Addressing The Main Cause
But generally, the main cause among the causes given above is ‘trying to be someone you are not’ or what we also call the ‘imposter syndrome’.
If you address this cause, all the others will be taken care of.
When you aren’t your true authentic self, there is no way you can be confident of your abilities or yourself.
Thus, you have either not attained your true self or are caught up in trying to be someone else.
Thus, find your true self or give up all the things you are not and self-doubt would vanish into thin air.
Nothing would ever be able to bother you anymore and your mind would become unwavering.
When you become who you are, you can only have self-confidence and self-belief within yourself.
Self Love To The Rescue
But the switch from self-doubt to self-confidence may not be instant.
So, you can use some self love affirmations to make this switch faster and a lot smoother.
When you are confident enough you should then work to develop and enhance self-love within yourself through:
- Finding things to love about yourself
- Learning to live for yourself
- Giving yourself a self love challenge
- Doing self love activities
- Developing self love habits
- Choosing your symbols for self love
Doing all these things individually would gradually make you start loving yourself.
Your self-doubt and overthinking would turn into self-confidence and self-love.
Replace Self Doubt With Self Love
Do not try too hard to come out of self-doubt and overthinking as it would be useless and even counter-productive without working on the underlying cause.
What you need to do is to find the underlying cause of your self-doubt, work to remove it, and then build self love in your life to close the doors on self-doubt and overthinking once and for all.
When you are in self love you would start feeling worthy of all the good things you have always wanted.
You would set out to achieve them and playfully create them for yourself.
Self love would make your life like a dream that has come true.
