Fixing Yourself Is Possible

Are you broken and looking for the answer to the question ‘How do I fix myself’?

Some people live a good life.

They feel good, have things to look forward to, and everything in their lives is going just fine.

They are considered to be normal people with a normal life.

But there are also people whose lives aren’t normal.

They are broken inside.

So, they do not feel peaceful within themselves.

They become too critical, complaining, and negative about their lives.

As a result, they live a life of dissatisfaction and always remain lonely and sad.

To sum up, people who are broken on the inside experience being trapped in hopelessness & despair.

But the good news is that there is still hope for them and they can be fixed.

When they become normal, all the traces of their broken past will be washed away to give them lifelong genuine, and true happiness.

So, if you are one of them, do not worry.

Let’s find the answer to ‘How do I fix myself’.

How Do I Fix Myself

Answering ‘How do I fix myself’ has 4 important steps or stages.

Confirm If You Are Broken

The first step in answering ‘How do I fix myself’ is to first confirm that you are broken.

Many people mistakenly believe that they are broken.

A given amount of pain, suffering, and problems is in everybody’s life and it doesn’t mean that they are broken.

You are broken only if the basic spiritual necessities of life like peace, positivity, happiness, and freedom are missing from your life.

If you can experience these emotions for some time during the day, you are not broken.

Also, there should be a concrete reason from the past that is responsible for this condition of yours.

The daily life struggles in the present aren’t the reason behind your broken state.

You are also not broken if you are different from other people.

Being different and as a result distant from others, doesn’t necessarily mean that you are broken.

It just means that you are unique and have special abilities that none of the other people you know have.

But if you have to stay away from the mainstream because of any of the lack of the above-listed spiritual necessities, then you are broken.

Also, remember that if your life is smoothly moving ahead and you have all the success in your life, you still might be broken inside.

Material success doesn’t guarantee spiritual wellness nor does it mean that you are not broken inside.

Thus, you may be rich but you still need to check if you feel broken inside.

If you aren’t broken, you just need to work on yourself to get better.

But if you have confirmed yourself to be broken, let’s move on to the next step.

When you are sure that you are broken, you are one step closer to finding the answer to ‘How do I fix myself’.

Start Living Alone

The next step in answering ‘How do I fix myself’ is to start living alone.

When you are broken, you are lonely even when you are surrounded by people.

It’s a sign that you need to be alone so that you can work on yourself.

So, to remove this constant loneliness, you need to learn to use your aloneness to your benefit.

You need to rewire your mind to fix yourself.

Now, you need to reflect on yourself and your past deeply.

To do this, give yourself some time after you have started living alone.

And when you feel ready ask yourself the question.

What were the things that shattered you inside?

What were the incidents that gave rise to the question ‘How do I fix myself’ in your life?

Generally, three types of things break you on the inside in your childhood or teenage.

It’s either harassment or trauma or some kind of loss that leaves you broken on the inside.

It could be because of bullying at school, parental fights or divorce, or the loss of a dear one, to name a few possibilities.

To fix yourself to a great extent, you have to let go of that thing or incident.

If it was some kind of a loss like the passing away of a loved one that broke you, you would now be in a much better position to let them go. 

Many times it’s just the question of spotting it and consciously letting that incident go.

At other times, you have to dig a little deeper.

You have to meaningfully forgive the person who hurt you.

So, you can forgive them just like that or you can talk to them if you can meet them.

If you want, you can also talk to a therapist or a person who you are comfortable with as he or she won’t judge you.

When you have forgiven that person, you feel calmer and much better.

You would now be in the position to let go of that incident.

When you do, you are another step closer to finding the answer to ‘How do I fix myself’.

Invite Positivity Into Your Life

The next step in answering ‘How do I fix myself’ is to invite positivity into your life.

For this, you have to practice positivity.

Each day, pick any three things from your past that you think as something bad that happened to you.

Now, spot three good and positive things about these incidents.

Since these things are in the past, some of them way back in the past, you would naturally be able to see the positive effects of some of these incidents.

You would notice positive things in the present that are the outcomes of those bad incidents.

For example, you may have been sent to a boarding school as a child that shattered you then.

But today you realize that your success is a result of the good teachers and the discipline you learned in that school.

Find similar positive things out of the other bad incidents from your past.

When all the past incidents are done, you can then come to the present and the future.

Positive affirmations about the future would let you manifest good things in the future.

The idea is to help you see the positive sides of incidents, things, and situations in your life and fix you further.

When you have learned to be positive, you are another step closer to finding the answer to ‘How do I fix myself’.

Love Yourself To Become Happy

The final step in answering ‘How do I fix myself’ is to love yourself to be happy.

The next thing that you need to do to fix yourself is to become happy.

This can be done by loving yourself.

Find self-worth and respect yourself.

Take excellent care of yourself.

Be conscious of your psychological, emotional, and physical needs and fulfill each one of them.

Find the reasons to love yourself and fall in love with yourself to find all the happiness in the world.

Make self love a habit and practice self love activities daily.

Learning to love yourself unconditionally will fill you with all the happiness in the world.

And when you overflow with self love you will also find love in your life.

You would find a loving partner.

 All the people around you would also shower their love on you.

All this love would set you free in life.

At this point in your life, you would have fixed yourself fully.

Thus, when you have learned to love yourself, you have found the answer to ‘How do I fix myself’.

Let Love Guide You

When you feel broken inside, you should ask yourself ‘How do I fix myself’.

Being broken doesn’t mean it’s your destiny now.

There is a way to fix yourself, no matter how broken you feel within yourself.

But the important thing is to have the strength to be on your own.

Any positive change starts within you, to be precise, it starts within your mind.

So, learn to be alone and re-wire your mind to start fixing yourself.

Then, develop positivity, happiness, and freedom through practice and your efforts.

When you are fully fixed, it will be a new beginning for you where self love will show you your path ahead. 

So, ask yourself ‘How do I fix myself’, start working on yourself to fix yourself, and let love be the guiding light in your life.