Give Your Marriage A Chance

Do you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’?

Don’t worry, it surely has a decent solution we can work on.

Any marriage stands on three important pillars – Trust, Respect, & Love.

If any one of these pillars weakens, it threatens the other two pillars and thus the whole marriage.

Thus, respect is a pillar as important as the other two pillars of a marriage.

If husband and wife do not respect each other, the marriage becomes like a body without its soul.

In such a situation, there is almost no hope in the marriage, and it’s better to part ways.

But if one person respects the other but the other doesn’t, it’s painful but there is some hope for resurrection.

If you are a husband and you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, do not lose hope and straightaway think of taking the extreme option of a divorce.

You should first be willing to try and make your marriage work.

Certain things can be done to make your wife start respecting you.

Do it for your children and if you don’t have any, do it for yourself.

That’s because a failed marriage is also your failure as a husband.

Every marriage has its issues, you have to deal with them before you can think of getting rid of it altogether.

So, give your marriage a chance, it may come back on the right path.

Let’s find out the solution to your concern ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

My Wife Doesn’t Respect Me

So, what do you need to do when you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’?

Confirm Your Claim

When you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, the first thing you should do is to confirm if it’s the truth.

Sometimes we are mistaken about certain things.

You may take certain things the wrong way which gives you a conclusion that doesn’t reflect the truth.

Thus, you have to hold your opinion ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, a little loose for a moment, and check if this is the case.

If you feel that your wife doesn’t respect you because she doesn’t think highly of you, then you are mistaken.

Most husbands want their wives to think of them as the supreme man or person in the whole world.

And when wives don’t keep saying high things about their husbands, they think that their wives don’t respect them anymore.

It’s not entirely a lame expectation to want your wife to think highly of you but if they don’t do it, it in no way means that she doesn’t respect you.

And if this is your definition of respect, then you should earn it by doing the highest things that no other husband does for their wives.

It’s a pretty unreasonable expectation and you should drop it.

Imagine, if your wife had the same expectation from you.

Thus, this is just the male ego and you should drop it.

You should give your wife the freedom to believe whatever she wants.

When you do, who knows she might start believing that you are the best person in the whole world.

So, if your wife doesn’t think of you as the most potent man in the world, it doesn’t mean that she is disrespecting you.

The next thing is that if your wife doesn’t have confidence in you and your ability, it’s not disrespecting you either.

You need to take this in a positive way and as a challenge.

Do things that would change this opinion of hers.

Show that you are quite capable of doing things she thinks you can’t do.

So, if she thinks you can’t become organized, become extremely organized and change her opinion.

A tip here would be to excel in things that matter to your wife a lot.

So, just impress her, and make her believe that you are capable of change and doing big things that she has an interest in.

Wives are generally very loving and even if you don’t excel in those things, they would love and respect you more just for trying.

The bottom line here is that if your wife doesn’t show confidence in your abilities, she is still not disrespecting you.

Now, let’s come to what disrespect is.

If your wife badmouths you, talks low of you to people, and insults you in front of them, she is disrespecting you and it’s not cool anymore.

This is what we are going to solve.

When you have confirmed your claim, you are done with the first step in solving your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

Respect Your Wife More

When you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, the next thing you should do is to start respecting your wife even more.

This might seem an ironic thing but it’s the right thing to do for two reasons.

First, you cannot solve an issue of disrespect with more disrespect.

Thus, you cannot start disrespecting your wife when you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

It would only make matters worse by making you disrespectful too.

But respecting the other person might nudge them into respecting you too.

And second, by respecting your wife you choose the very first option you have, and thus you choose a process to solve the whole issue.

Going through the various steps of a process lets you solve the issue with certainty and confidence.

It either solves the issue or frees you to move on in your life as you know that you have tried everything you could.

So, you need to respect your wife even more.

Focus on her positives and appreciate her for them.

Treat her with more respect in front of others.

Also, treat her family and friends with love & affection.

Tell people about how good and hardworking she is.

Talk to her and tell her that you respect her even more now for the person she is.

Tell her that you respect all her beliefs, her work, and everything she does for you and the family.

Respecting your wife might make her find the lost respect for you.

If she still doesn’t respect you, move on to the next step.

When you have started respecting your wife even more, you are done with the next step in solving your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

Love Her More

When you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, the next thing you should do is to start loving her even more.

How much a wife respects her husband depends a lot on how much the husband loves her.

Thus, to make her respect you, you should love her more.

Remember, the times when you were in a relationship and how romantic things used to be?

Just reignite that spark and bring that magic back into your lives.

Bring flowers for her once in a while to surprise her.

Give her gifts and take to long drives and road trips with you.

Make her feel comfortable and safe with your presence around her.

Tell her how much you love her and how much she means to you.

Go out with her to watch a movie and follow it up with a romantic candlelight dinner.

Remember, the various anniversaries and organize a nice party for her birthdays.

Hug her while you sleep at night and kiss her goodbye every day before going to work.

It’s a high chance that she will start respecting you again when you start loving her more.

When you have started loving your wife even more, you are done with the next step in solving your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

Become More Responsible

When you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, the next thing you should do is to become more responsible and efficient in life.

Women love responsible men especially when they are their husbands.

So, fulfill your responsibilities for the household on time and without her telling you to do them.

Pay the bills on time, pick up your children from school, and be proactive to start working on plans for the future.

You may even help her with her responsibilities for the household or even her work.

So, clean the house on weekends, do laundry, and help her with her work or make it easier for her to finish her work.

When she sees that you have become more responsible and more efficient in life in general, she will start respecting you for your efforts.

When you have become more responsible, you are done with the next step in solving your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

Become More Successful

When you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, the next thing you should do is to become more successful.

If nothing works, becoming more successful will, although you wish that this is not needed.

You should get all the success in life but if you need to be successful to gain respect from your wife, there is a deeper problem there.

But still, if you love her a lot, you would do anything so that she stays with you and respects you.

So, work harder and smarter, get promoted at work, and earn more money.

The world respects successful people and so will your hitherto disrespecting wife.

It’s a strange way to get respect but it will solve your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

Who doesn’t like a bigger house, a bigger bank balance, and a secure future?

So, become successful and your wife should start respecting you.

When you have become more successful, you are done with the next step in solving your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

Talk To Her

When you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, the next thing you should do is to talk to her.

If your wife still doesn’t respect you, something is wrong.

Thus, the next thing that you need to do is to talk to her.

Ask her politely and with all the respect you have for her why she is not happy with you.

What’s wrong that you have done or are still doing?

Tell her that it pains you to see your family like this.

Reassure her that you are willing to do anything to gain her respect and mend your family.

Ask her what she needs and promise her to fulfill her wish.

When you open up to her, there are two possibilities.

She would either understand you and hence start respecting you or she would tell you about a broken past that is not letting her live well.

When you have talked to your wife, you are done with the next step in solving your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

At this point, you need to move on to the next step.

Help Her Out

When you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, the next thing you should do is to help her out.

When your wife has emotionally opened up to you and told you the reason why she is not happy with herself, you need to help her out.

Generally, when a person is not happy with their lives, they take it all out on the person they love the most.

They know that only that person would tolerate their behaviour which is why they treat them badly.

And this is the reason exactly why your wife is not able to respect you.

So, you should help her so that she can be her true self who can respect you and build a great family with you.

Generally, when someone is not able to respect their spouse, it’s because of the childhood trauma that broke them on the inside.

So, if your wife had a childhood where she saw fights between her parents or them getting divorced, it has left a big negative impact on her mind.

Either help her become herself again or if the problem persists, take her to an expert or a therapist.

Remember, during this time, you have to be extremely loving and patient.

You don’t have to give up and you have to constantly support and comfort your wife.

Do not judge her and just let her be.

Slowly, you should see changes that bring improvement in her behavior.

By the end of this stage, she should get all healed and start respecting you more than you want her to.

If it still doesn’t happen for you, you need to move on to the last step.

When you have tried to help her out, you are done with the next step in solving your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

Part Ways With Her

When you feel ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’, the last thing you should do is to take a call and finally part ways with your wife.

If you see any improvement in her behavior, even if it is slow, you can choose to be with her as you love her.

But if there is no improvement even after a long time, you need to part ways with her.

Separation is never pleasant but when there is no other option left, you have to take the difficult call at some point in time.

Relationships are important but not at the cost of your self-respect.

You cannot let someone ruin your life indefinitely. 

You suffered a lot, tried everything you could, and even tried to help her, but when nothing works and there is no hope left, you need to let her go.

So, you can get a divorce and move on in your life without any qualms or regrets whatsoever.

Maybe you still love her and will always love her but you need to part your ways with her to safeguard your self-respect and dignity.

When you have finally parted ways with your disrespectful wife, you are done with the final step in solving your issue ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’.

Be With Someone Who Respects You

It’s a tricky situation when ‘My wife doesn’t respect me’ has become a reality for you.

Having a disrespectful wife can be difficult.

But you should not give up on her too soon.

You should try everything you can to fix the issue before you can finally let her go.

If she starts to respect you at any stage, you are a lucky man and you can stay with the love of your life.

But if all hope is lost, you need to part ways with her as self-respect is always the priority for a human being.

So, move on, it’s okay if you have pain within you for losing her.

But keep believing that someone else will come into your life who will give you the love and respect that you deserve.

And when they arrive, reciprocate all their love & respect with all your heart and never let them go.

When you finally get respect from your wife, you will be able to respect yourself again.

It would significantly add to your self love and hence take you to that satisfying space within yourself where you truly belong.

‘My wife doesn’t respect me’ would no longer be on your mind and you will be able to live a life full of dignity, love, & self love