The Gift of Life

Are you struggling to find an answer to how to like yourself?

Liking yourself should come naturally to you.

Life is the greatest gift God has given us.

There is so much to do in life that makes life worth living.

We can enjoy the calm within ourselves, make plans set goals, and go after them, and celebrate & enjoy when we achieve those goals in life.

Thus, life is filled with adventures, thrill, and excitement.

But this gift of life needs to be wrapped around with a golden sheet on all its sides if we are to enjoy the surprise.

This golden sheet is the ability to like ourselves.

Only if we like ourselves can we enjoy life.

If for some unfortunate reason, we do not like ourselves, life may start seeming like a punishment.

When you don’t like your self which is “the thing” that is to be used to enjoy life, how will you enjoy life itself?

Thus, we need to first enjoy our existence to be able to see the beauty of life.

So, let’s find a way to help you discover how to like yourself.

How To Like Yourself?

How can we start liking ourselves?

To find the answer to this question, we first need to go back a little and start from there.

What is our current status within ourselves?

Do we only not like ourselves or is it that we hate ourselves?

Let’s assume the worst situation and start moving ahead from there step by step.

Stop Hating Yourself

Let’s say a person hates himself.

Why you hate yourself holds a lot of importance in discovering how to like yourself.

What are the possible reasons for self-hatred within a person?

There may be two possible reasons. 

First, the ghosts of the past. 

And second, something big bad things that may be going on in his life in the present.

Let’s come to the first scenario.

Dealing With The Ghosts of The Past

The reward of fighting your past demons is gaining the knowledge of how to like yourself.

Thus, you need to fight your past demons.

But what are the things from your past that may trouble you?

What do you need to do to fight these past demons?

Forgiving Yourself For Your Mistakes

The first thing that takes you closer to knowing how to like yourself is to forgive yourself for your past mistakes.

It’s possible that you did something horrible that you could not forget or forgive yourself for.

It’s very easy to blame yourself but it’s tough to give yourself the benefit of the doubt or forgive yourself.

Whatever happened back then, do not take it on you. 

Sometimes, it’s the decision of God and we are just a medium or agent for things to happen.

You must free yourself of that burden because it can never entirely be the fault of a single person.

We are neither that powerful nor that important.

So, take things lighter, relieve yourself, and move on.

So, forgive yourself for your past mistakes and allow yourself to get closer to discovering how to like yourself.

Forgiving Yourself For Your Inaction

The second thing that takes you closer to knowing how to like yourself is to forgive yourself for your inaction in the past.

It’s possible that you hate yourself for not being able to do something that you should have done in the past.

Again, blaming yourself is never the answer.

It would only create more trouble for you.

If you were capable or able to do that thing, you would have done it.

It wasn’t that you chose not to do it.

You must have tried your heart out.

And even if you didn’t try it simply means that it wasn’t meant to happen then.

So, do not blame yourself for it.

Forgive yourself for your inaction in the past and allow yourself to get closer to discovering how to like yourself.

Forgiving People For Hurting You

The next thing that takes you closer to knowing how to like yourself is to forgive people for hurting you in the past.

Maybe we hate ourselves because some person made life hell for us or scarred us by giving us a hard time in the past.

Here, you precisely know it’s not your fault but still you hate yourself due to it.

This is so because holding grudges against someone else doesn’t punish him, it punishes us.

Thus, for the sake of your valuable present and your invaluable future, you need to forgive that person and let go of that incident from your mind.

Giving up hate for somebody else makes you more capable of liking yourself.

It’s a very small price for a big capability.

So, forgive and move on.

Forgive people for hurting you in the past and allow yourself to get closer to discovering how to like yourself.

Separating Yourself From Your Hater

The next thing that takes you closer to knowing how to like yourself is to separate yourself from your hater.

Another reason for hating yourself is maybe because someone from within your family hated you in the past.

Sometimes, when someone we love hates us, we turn against ourselves and start hating ourselves.

Don’t let this unfortunate thing happen to you.

They chose to hate you maybe because they could not like themselves either.

So, forgive them and give yourself the chance to be liked and loved by you.

It’s important to dissociate yourself from that person and see yourself as a completely separate person.

It would bring you in a much better position to stop hating yourself.

This is how forgiving people for hurting you in the past allows you to get closer to discovering how to like yourself.

Thus, at this point, we are halfway out of self-hatred and thus in a much better position to like ourselves.

Making Peace With The Present

To get self-hatred out of ourselves fully, we also need to make peace with the present.

The present is the best place to learn how to like yourself.

So, what are the possible things we do in the present that may be a reason for our self-hatred?

There can be two things. 

Self Sabotage

The first wrong thing that you are doing in the present is doing things that are against you.

You cannot act against yourself and at the same time expect to learn how to like yourself.

Following are the wrong things you do against yourself.

Inaction

The next thing you need to do to learn how to like yourself is to come out of inaction.

Inaction is the biggest crime against self.

When you have the capability and opportunity to do great things for yourself, you should not sit idle or procrastinate on important things.

You should plan your activities, get active, and get going in life.

You should set targets and goals and work towards them.

You should also not give up on your goals or yourself and give everything you have towards fulfilling them.

Even if you fail, your efforts will still keep your life meaningful.

This is how coming out of inaction takes you closer to discovering how to like yourself.

Looking Down On Yourself

The next thing you need to do to learn how to like yourself is to stop looking down on yourself.

Maybe you have fed yourself with feelings of inferiority or emptiness or not being good enough.

All these things would make you hate yourself even if you have it in you to do great things.

Thus, it’s important to lift your spirits and raise your self-esteem.

Stop looking down on yourself or treating yourself as if you are weaker than others.

 You have all the mental and physical capabilities that everyone else has. 

And you are capable of doing things that no one else can because you are unique.

So, you are special, you just need to realize your potential and the things you are capable of doing.

Thus, stop looking down on yourself and get closer to discovering how to like yourself.

Curtailing Yourself

The next thing you need to do to learn how to like yourself is to stop curtailing yourself.

You may be promoting things in your life that are holding you back.

There may be many things like fear, judging yourself, and comparing yourself to others.

These things prevent you from making progress in life thus making you hate yourself.

When you are stuck in one place because of yourself, it’s natural to hate yourself for it.

So, do not be your obstacle.

Calm down release fear, be gentle, compassionate, and kind to yourself, and do not judge yourself too harshly.

Also, stop comparing yourself to others and focus on self-improvement.

Stop curtailing yourself and get closer to discovering how to like yourself.

Blocking Your Success

The next thing you need to do to learn how to like yourself is to stop blocking your success.

Are you standing in your way of success?

It includes doubting yourself, allowing fear of failure or fear of success to enter your mind, and pressurizing yourself with perfectionism.

Doing all these things keeps you away from the success that you deserve so much and want so badly.

Thus, develop self-confidence and self-belief within yourself, be bold, and be prepared for success.

Give up the urge for perfectionism by focusing on doing what you can do in a given moment.

Thus, stop blocking your success and get closer to discovering how to like yourself.

Sabotaging Other People

The next thing you need to do to learn how to like yourself is to stop acting against other people.

You are an individual but a part of the larger society.

Thus, you are connected to all the other individuals of the society.

When you hold evil thoughts against any of them or try to hurt them or their chances for a good life, you hurt yourself too.

Thus, being against people may make you hate yourself.

You should make it a point not to insult or demean people, especially the ones who are smaller or weaker than you.

You should also not be jealous of others and thus should not try to sabotage their progress or happiness in any way.

You should not harm their chances of succeeding or getting a better life for themselves.

Doing anything against other people is like inviting trouble into your own life.

Ultimately, it would make you hate yourself.

Thus, stop acting against others and get closer to discovering how to like yourself.

When you stop being against yourself or others, you will notice that you have stopped hating yourself.

Hate is the biggest hurdle in beginning to like yourself.

Thus, when you do not hate yourself anymore, you are very close to start liking yourself.

Start Liking Yourself

When you have stopped doing all the wrong things, it’s now time to get further closer to discovering how to like yourself by starting to do the right things.

To like yourself, you have to do some right things in the present that are good both for yourself and others.

Do The Right Things For Yourself

The things that you can do for yourself and that would make you like yourself are falling in love with yourself,  promoting self love habits, and practicing self love and self-care activities in your life.

Under these heads, you would learn to journal for self love, using positive affirmations to learn how to like yourself more, start living for yourself, and love yourself unconditionally.

You would also come to know about the various things that you can love yourself for.

It would clear all your doubts regarding being worthy of love and self love and would give a positive shift to your mindset where you would be able to appreciate yourself more.

You can also choose customized self love symbols for yourself which would keep reminding you to love yourself.

You should also get engaged in self-reflection so that you are constantly able to enhance self love within yourself. 

Thus, you would start liking yourself which would make your life beautiful forever.

This is how you do the right things for yourself to start discovering how to like yourself.

Do The Right Things For Others

There are certain things that you can do for others that would make you like yourself more.

These things include being kind to them, appreciating their efforts and complimenting them, and also helping them make their lives better in any way you can.

When the people around you are peaceful, happy, and successful, it will make you like yourself more.

There won’t be any more insecurities or threats to your ability to like or love yourself.

Thus, when you start doing the right things for others, you will have completed learning how to like yourself.

The bottom line is that doing activities that favor self love and love would make you like yourself.

Any kind of love makes life positive, meaningful, and purposeful.

And all of these privileges together make life beautiful and worth living.

When life feels beautiful, you truly start liking yourself.

Like Yourself, Love Your Life

To learn how to like yourself, you first need to remove all that stands between you and you liking yourself.

The main obstacle in most people’s lives is their past which makes them hate themselves.

You need to get rid of the ghosts of the past so that you do not hate yourself anymore.

When you have done so, you then need to get your present in order.

You have to stop doing things that may be making you hate yourself.

This includes things that are against you and other people.

This is how you eliminate hate from your life.

And once your life is completely free of hate, you have developed the ability to like yourself.

You can then start loving yourself by practicing self love which would make you like yourself increasingly more with each passing moment. 

When your life is filled with self love, it will become a living dream for you.

It would be better than everything you have ever wanted or ever dreamt of.

It would set you free forever.