Don’t Ignore Your Boyfriend’s Tears
Is the thought ‘My boyfriend cried at the thought of losing me’ bothering you?
Are you feeling confused about how to feel or what to do about it?
Relax! It’s a more common relationship situation than you may think. And it doesn’t need you to do anything drastic. But you shouldn’t avoid it altogether, either.
Crying at the thought of losing someone means that they hold a special place in your life. You are deeply attached to them and can’t imagine your life without them. When told to do so, you drown yourself in an ocean of sadness and hopelessness.
This is what your boyfriend might be going through.
So, even when you joke about leaving him, he might get all serious. His face may turn pale and expressionless, he may suddenly get up and leave the room, or he mayn’t be able to help but start crying in front of you.
There can be two possible reasons behind your boyfriend welling up at the thought of you leaving them.
First, maybe your boyfriend deeply loves you and does not want to let you go.
Second, he may be too emotional or even insecure in the relationship, and the thought of losing you scares him more than it should.
Seeing your boyfriend cry to be with you might generate a cocktail of emotions within you.
On one hand, you may feel happy that your boyfriend loves you so much. On the other hand, you may be concerned about his emotional health and well-being.
Questions regarding whether you should even be in a relationship with such an emotionally fragile man might also pass through your mind.
But one thing is sure—You cannot ignore the incident altogether. You cannot allow your boyfriend’s love or insecurity to turn into an obsession, as it will only make the relationship unnecessarily emotionally charged and painful for both of you.
What you need to do is find a way to help your boyfriend regain control of his emotions and stabilise the relationship.
This blog will help you help your boyfriend. It will tell you how you can support him to steady his emotions in a soothing way, which can strengthen the relationship. It will also address some concerns that you may have regarding being in such a relationship.
Thus, by the time you are done reading this blog, you will have a straightforward way to a much stronger, more emotionally fulfilling relationship.
Let’s begin!
My Boyfriend Cried At The Thought of Losing Me – What Should I Do?
Before we begin talking about the solution, let me clarify something.
I have assumed two things here.
Assumption 1: You are not planning to break up with your boyfriend.
If you are, I recommend that you find the right moment and be honest with him. It may hurt him a little, but it’ll be in the long-term interest of both of you.
Remember: if you don’t want to be with him, it’s not you, it’s fate! You have not sabotaged the relationship; you have made an informed and honest choice that is in the interest of both of you.
Assumption 2: Your boyfriend isn’t toxic.
If he is, his tears might be an act to make you stay in the relationship. I recommend getting out of the relationship as soon as possible.
Remember: No relationship is bigger than your self-respect and safety.
Only if both these assumptions hold in your case, the rest of the blog is for you.
Let’s now find out what you should do if your boyfriend cries at the thought of losing you.
Help Him Out
If your boyfriend cried at the thought of losing you, you must help him out.
Helping him out means helping him learn to manage his fragile emotions so he becomes more emotionally stable and stronger.
An emotionally stronger version of him will have reduced intensity and instances of emotional breakdown in the future. He would be able to keep his cool even in emotionally challenging situations, such as disagreements or arguments. He would learn to express his feelings rather than letting his emotions get the better of him.
For you, it might save a lot of emotional hurt, exhaustion, and overwhelm. It will make the relationship a place where disagreements and challenges are resolved through understanding and communication rather than emotional convenience or pressure.
Here is what you need to do exactly to help your boyfriend out.
Do Not Be Scared
When your boyfriend cries at the thought of losing you, it’s easy to get scared.
Some people get scared by the attention and love they are receiving, while some think their partner is an “emotional freak.” They don’t know how to respond to the sudden influx of emotions.
You should not make this mistake, as there is nothing to be scared of. The crying only tells that your partner loves you and wants to be with you.
Instead of getting confused, please take it as an opportunity to share a memorable moment in your relationship.
Be Compassionate
Even the tears of a stranger generate compassion within us. When it’s your boyfriend who is crying for you, it should make you even more compassionate. You feel bad for him for what he must be going through.
Your compassion for him will prepare you to give him some much-needed comfort.
Comfort Him
When your boyfriend is crying inconsolably, you must comfort him.
Give him a soothing hug or a kiss, and say something like “It’s okay,” “I am here for you,” or “Everything is going to be okay,” which can offer him the emotional support he needs in that moment.
The physical and emotional comfort you give him will make him feel much better.
Reassure Him
Tell him how much you love him and that you are not ready to lose him either. Reassure him of your presence in his life by telling him that you (as a couple) will work through challenges and always stick together.
Make him feel that you will always be there for him and that you are not going anywhere.
The reassurance will help him settle down emotionally.
Have an honest conversation about the reaction
When he regains his composure, you must talk to him about his episode of emotional breakdown.
Tell him about the possible adverse effects of emotional volatility in the relationship.
Make him understand how it will make him emotionally weak, which can destabilise the relationship. As a couple, it will lead you to make decisions based on charged emotions rather than informed, wise choices.
Help him realise how being too emotional can also lead to frequent arguments and fights in the relationship, in the future. Instead of feeling loved and supported, you might feel emotionally overwhelmed and frustrated.
Tell him that you want to be with him, too, but not because of any emotional pressure, but because of your love for him. The emotional burden will only hurt the relationship in ways known and unknown.
The honest talk will help your boyfriend realise the need to become emotionally stronger. It will generate within him a natural urge to keep the relationship healthy and give it longevity. It will trigger his emotional maturity, which a relationship requires to go all the way.
Try to find the root cause
Helping your boyfriend shift from emotional volatility to emotional maturity will need more than just effective communication. It will require you to help him find the root cause of their emotional breakdown so that it can be worked upon and released.
If it was just the love for you that made him cry, all is well. In fact, it’s the best possible scenario that tells you that you are perfect for each other.
It means his emotions are not a problem but a strength for him and the relationship. In this case, you don’t need to do anything other than enjoy each other’s company and warmth.
But if it’s fear of losing you or insecurity, you may need to go deeper, as it is making your boyfriend too emotional about the relationship.
Is it because he lost someone he was deeply in love with? Is it because he had a loveless childhood? Or is it just because he has no one in his life except you?
You must discuss his feelings in detail and get to the root cause.
Try finding a solution
If the insecurity isn’t as severe, strengthening trust through regular communication and spending quality time together might work well.
But if it’s concerning, you must see a therapist and maybe a relationship expert, too. It will help your boyfriend overcome his fears, bringing emotional balance to the relationship.
Love Him And Never Let Him Go
Irrespective of why your boyfriend cried, it shows that he loves you like his world. Finding someone who truly loves and values you is rare. Acknowledge how lucky you are and never let that true love go.
Helping your emotionally fragile boyfriend may not be a cakewalk for you. You may have to go through some emotionally challenging moments. You may be expected to put your wisest foot forward in the face of an emotional roller-coaster.
Please take it as an opportunity to grow emotionally in your relationship. Choose to be the steerer and the saviour of the ship instead of staying confused or getting scared.
Helping your boyfriend with his emotions will give you immense confidence. It will mean you can handle any relationship situation with ease and effortlessness. After all, relationships are all about handling emotions well.
Use Emotions To Find Your Special Someone
It’s tough to see someone whom you look up to for emotional support cry. It might push you into paralysing shock and confusion.
If the question of whether you should even be in such an emotionally volatile relationship passes your mind, you aren’t entirely wrong either.
But being judgmental or jumping to conclusions is the last thing you should do in a relationship.
The only thing that matters is whether you love your boyfriend and want to be with him. If you do, you must help them better manage their emotions. Make them feel better, have an honest talk about their emotional breakdown, and help them overcome their insecurities, if any.
Remember: Running away from emotionally charged situations is never the solution in a relationship.
If you run away from such a relationship, you might have to face the same or even a worse situation in the next one. Thus, you should always choose love over temporary emotional overwhelm. It will not only make you a better partner but also help you find your perfect someone.
