When You Get Betrayed
Recovering from betrayal is never easy.
That’s because mostly the person who betrays you is very close to your heart.
Relationships and bonds make life richer.
They give us memories that we can cherish forever.
But it also has a dark side.
Sometimes, they may give memories that haunt us for a long time.
One of the most important elements of any human relationship is trust.
Trust is the bedrock of all our relationships.
Thus, human lives depend a lot on trust.
But if there is trust, there are betrayals too.
Not everyone you trust does justice to it.
So, there are betrayals in relationships that break our hearts.
At that moment, it feels that we will never be able to recover from the shock.
But there is a way out which you can use to recover from betrayals.
So, when you are recovering from betrayal, what are the things you can do to make the process easier and faster?
The Way To Recovering From Betrayal
So, how can recovering from betrayal be made simpler?
Do Not Think Of Revenge
The first thing you need to do when you are recovering from betrayal is not to opt for revenge.
When you are betrayed, you get too negative at the moment.
Your first reaction is to give it back to the betrayer.
You can easily get involved in an ugly argument or a fight with them.
There is an even worse possibility which is to decide to take revenge on them.
Acts of revenge never give you what you expect from them.
They do just the opposite.
They trap you into negativity and make you do things that land you in trouble and make you repent later.
In addition, revenge wastes your precious time, wealth, and effort.
It can strip you of everything you have now.
And the worst of all, acts of revenge change you as a person for the worse.
They make the level or quality of your life much inferior.
You are no more yourself, and you always feel stressed and fearful.
Thus, revenge is not even the last option when you are recovering from betrayal.
It would do the opposite of healing you and would push you further into the mess.
When you have understood that revenge isn’t the answer to your betrayal, you are done with the first step of recovering from betrayal.
Do Not Blame Yourself
The second thing you need to do when you are recovering from betrayal is to not blame yourself for it.
Some people who are not the type of people who take revenge or blame the betrayer, take the whole burden of the episode upon themselves.
They blame themselves for trusting the wrong person.
They feel that they should have known the truth.
They keep torturing themselves mentally which in some cases even reaches the stage of self-harm.
Do not make this mistake.
When somebody betrays you, you are the last person who can be blamed for it.
You were the bigger person who trusted someone.
It’s the person who has betrayed you, and he or she is the clear and total culprit.
Nobody knows what’s going on in somebody else’s mind, not even the betrayer himself.
It’s quite possible that when you trusted the other person, he or she had not planned to betray you.
Circumstances and people change and you have nothing to do with all of it.
So, do not blame yourself for being betrayed.
If you do, you should give yourself the benefit of the doubt, and thus forgive yourself.
When you do not blame yourself for the betrayal, you are done with the second step of recovering from betrayal.
Do Not Stop Trusting
The next thing you need to do when you are recovering from betrayal is to not stop trusting people.
When people are betrayed, they think that trusting is not worth it, and they stop trusting people after that.
This should not happen to you.
Trusting people is very necessary for living a good and vibrant life.
When we trust people, it signifies the openness of our minds.
It helps us build strong relationships that give us all the love and happiness in our lives.
Only when we trust others can we find the right people who will make our lives beautiful.
Just because a bad person betrayed you, you should not close that door of trust within yourself for everybody else.
If you do, you will get trapped in loneliness and hopelessness for the rest of your life.
When you stop trusting, after a time, you start forgetting how to trust others.
It could get more and more difficult for you to trust even the right people.
Thus, you should not stop trusting people after you have been betrayed by any one bad person.
When you do not stop trusting after being betrayed, you are done with the third step of recovering from betrayal.
It’s Okay To Be Shocked
The next thing you need to do when you are recovering from betrayal is to be in a state of shock or disbelief.
When you are betrayed, you must stay as normal as possible.
Just like you don’t want to decide to take revenge on your betrayer, you also do not want to treat it like it doesn’t bother you.
Betrayal should put you in a place where you are in disbelief.
Only when you are shocked to your core, would you be able to look into the incident and improve yourself for the future.
If you treat it as a normal thing or you try to show that you are strong, it may happen again with you.
Do not fear the trauma that disbelief or shock brings with them.
It’s okay to go through that feeling when you need to.
It would only help you recover faster and by following the right process of recovery from a betrayal.
It would only make you more potent and stronger going forward.
So, do not prevent forcefully, the shock you go through when you are betrayed.
When you are in total disbelief after the betrayal, you are done with the next step of recovering from betrayal.
Accept What Has Happened
The next thing you need to do when you are recovering from betrayal is to accept that someone has betrayed you.
For some people, it’s very hard to believe that they have been betrayed by someone.
They keep themselves in denial and don’t want to leave that state.
It’s like the phase of shock from the betrayal doesn’t get over for them.
It’s a very dangerous place to be in as it could hamper your mental capabilities hence pushing you into schizophrenia.
You must be strong enough to sense & accept what has happened.
You need to open the window of acceptance within yourself slowly but surely.
People fear that if they accept that they have been betrayed, they will have to go through a lot of pain and struggle.
They would not know what to do next and they would not know whether and how to trust anybody after the incident.
Talking about the fear of pain and struggle, there is no bigger pain than living in denial and something that is not real.
You would have to go through a lot if you accept the betrayal but at least there would still be hope for your recovery from the betrayal.
There is no point in avoiding something just because you fear what is real.
By doing so, you are only preventing the progress of your own life.
You just need to trust yourself and the process of life.
You need to believe that acceptance of being betrayed will help you attract trustworthy people in your life.
Life isn’t so unfair that it will keep giving you bad people.
So, accept what has happened and your recovery from the incident will stay on track.
When you accept getting betrayed, you are done with the next step of recovering from betrayal.
Learn Your Lessons
The next thing you need to do when you are recovering from betrayal is to learn from the betrayal.
This is the single most important step of the process of recovering from betrayal.
If you are willing to learn from what has happened, every other step would take care of itself.
What you need to do is to analyze the whole thing.
How did someone you trusted so much betrayed you?
Where did you go wrong?
How could you have done things differently?
What can you do in the future to prevent such incidents from happening?
The most important thing in the analysis would be to remember the type of person who betrayed you.
In the future, you can recognize such people and thus stay careful of them.
It doesn’t mean that that person would certainly betray you.
It just means that you have to be more careful about them.
Also, remember the mistakes you made in the case of the betrayer and do not repeat them in the future.
Remember, learning doesn’t mean that you become more skeptical, it just means that you become more responsible so that the betrayal doesn’t happen again.
So learn all that you need from the episode and make sure you don’t get betrayed in the future, at least due to the same mistakes.
When you have learned your lessons from the betrayal, you are done with the next step of recovering from betrayal.
Move On
The last thing you need to do when you are recovering from betrayal is to move on without getting scarred.
When you have crossed all the necessary steps including learning from the whole betrayal episode, you should move on in your life.
Moving on doesn’t mean you move ahead scarred or taking the burden of the incident in your head or heart.
It means that you move ahead in life like it never happened.
Having learned your valuable lessons from the whole episode should make it easier for you to do this.
The idea is that you should not make the actions of bad people affect your life negatively.
When someone has betrayed you, why should you suffer for it?
If someone has to suffer, it’s them who would suffer for the kind of person they are or have become.
You should grow richer and more experienced from the whole thing.
It should make you a more learned and smarter person.
When you learn to benefit from your betrayal incident, this is when you have fully recovered from the betrayal.
When you have moved on in life after getting betrayed, you are done with the final step of recovering from betrayal.
Let Betrayals Make You Stronger
Recovering from betrayals can be very tricky sometimes.
It’s because it involves trust.
Trust is a beautiful thing.
It gives us great people and beautiful memories attached to them.
If some people take advantage of your trust, it’s their loss.
But you should not change even a bit after a betrayal, you should only become wiser.
You should remember that trust will give you more good people than it will give you betrayals.
So, you should keep trusting people and let go of bad people and episodes of betrayal that come your way.
When you learn this, agony and pain would diminish to their minimum in your life and self love would rise to its desired level.
And when self love is stable and ever-increasing within you, you will attract all the good people and good fortunes in your life.
So, when you are recovering from betrayal in life, remember not to lose who you were before getting betrayed.