The Hardest Struggle Known To Man
Do you feel like you are failing in life?
Are you wondering, “What to do when you feel like a failure at everything?”
What if I told you it’s a common, even normal, feeling most people deal with?
There are simple things you can do to overcome the feeling of being a failure.
Feeling like a failure means that you don’t feel yourself to be good enough for life. You feel under-confident, often doubt yourself, and everything you do doesn’t bear the expected results. Simple things like talking confidently or staying calm feel difficult.
Some other signs that you feel like a failure in life include having constant negative thoughts, being self-critical often, and not being able to trust yourself.
Giving negative self-feedback, perfectionism, or not achieving desired outcomes may make you feel like a failure.
Constantly feeling like a failure is the hardest thing anyone has ever had to go through. It’s the biggest personal struggle known to man. When you feel like a failure, nothing makes you happy. Even when someone tries to cheer you up, it feels like they are making fun of you. It makes you irritable and pushes you deep into negativity.
But you cannot accept the situation and give up. Feeling like a failure is just a feeling, but if you take it, it might become your reality. Thus, you must fight till your self-image improves. When you start believing you are good enough, life can become truly worth living.
The good news? It’s possible to do so in just a few steps!
This is what this blog is all about. It will give you simple ways to stop feeling like a failure at everything and help you raise your self-esteem. I will explain each of the four steps and their important sub-steps in detail so that you can follow them easily.
By the end of this blog, you will not only learn to stay confident but also turn your life around.
Let’s begin!
What To Do When You Feel Like A Failure At Everything
Calm Down
When you feel like a failure at everything, you first need to calm yourself down.
When you feel like a failure at everything, stress may be taking over your senses. Thus, what you need is to stop holding onto the negative feeling too tightly and relax.
When you have calmed down, the fear that has been causing havoc inside will subside, and the worry on your face will disappear.
Calming down will bring you back to your senses and open the way to finding a solution and starting to work on it.
To calm down, you must first remind yourself that the feeling of being a failure isn’t true. It’s just a passing feeling or a buildup that you have allowed to settle in your mind.
Constantly feeling like a failure might make you want to give up. Thus, the next thing you need to do is not to give up. Remember: Whatever the situation, hang in there and keep that ray of hope coming. Even if you can’t see it yet, believe that it exists!
The next challenge would be facing self-doubt. It will tell you that you are not good enough or that you will never make it through. Do not fight it, as it may be a futile and endless pursuit.
Instead, train yourself to take the self-doubt positively. If it says – “You are not enough,” answer with – “Maybe I am not enough, but maybe I am. I choose to explore that possibility.” Just open up that possibility in your mind, and self-doubt will flow out of it.
Pressure plays a significant role in making us feel like a failure. Sometimes, under pressure, we tend to give up before even trying. Thus, the next step to calming yourself down is to learn to handle pressure well. Let it shape, and not break you.
To do this, you must not take on all the pressure of a task at once. Instead, break it down into smaller, more straightforward steps. Take one step at a time, so it guides you rather than overwhelms you. Doing this will not only help you manage pressure effectively but also help you enjoy the task at hand.
The final thing you need to do to calm down is to practice specific techniques to find inner peace. Think about what will make you feel at peace within yourself right now. It may be meditation, Yoga, walking in nature, journaling, affirmations, or anything else. Do whatever works for you.
Stress is addictive. When you start calming down, you may feel fear rising. Do not let fear keep you trapped in stress. Choose inner peace irrespective of how scary it may feel at first. When you have landed in inner peace, stress will go away, and you will be ready for the next step.
Develop Self-Belief
The next step is to build self-belief.
Developing self-belief means believing in your abilities, especially when things are not going your way.
When you have self-belief, you remain unmoved by challenges. Instead of feeling like a failure, you are prepared to dig deeper and carve out the path to success.
Self-belief can make the impossible possible for you. It has the power to turn dreams into reality. When you believe in your abilities, success becomes a mere formality.
The secret to developing self-belief is threefold.
First, you must stop judging yourself harshly. Every time you judge yourself negatively, it eats into your self-confidence. It becomes the wall that keeps you and your self-belief apart.
To stop judging yourself, you must stop judging others. Remember: when you criticise people, you are subconsciously training your mind to be negative, which in turn makes you self-judgmental.
The next step to believing in yourself is to surround yourself with supportive people. When the people around you believe in you, it becomes easier to believe in yourself. So, always choose your companions and environment carefully.
Finally, practice specific strategies, such as positive affirmations or journaling, to directly boost your self-belief.
Specific affirmations like “I believe in myself,” “I am confident in my abilities,” or “I am enough” can go a long way in raising your self-belief. You can use these affirmations when you get up in the morning and before going to sleep. You can also use them as needed, such as for self-talk.
Similarly, journaling every day can also help build self-belief. You can journal about your past accomplishments, make a list of your strengths and virtues, challenge negative self-talk, and envision a future self that is full of self-belief.
On your self-belief development journey, you may feel your self-belief dwindling at times. Remember not to read too much into self-doubt and consciously choose to have faith in yourself. Whenever the going gets tough, use your most helpful affirmations to boost your self-belief.
Make Inroads In Your Life
After working on the mental aspect, you need to work on the physical aspects. Thus, the next thing you need to do is to make inroads into your life.
Making inroads into your life means bringing it into order so you can create practical plans and execute them well.
It will give you the clarity to do anything confidently, move ahead in your life, and achieve your life goals effortlessly.
The life that till now seemed “dull,” “inaccessible,” or “out of control” will slowly start getting easier to manage.
To make inroads into your life, you need to do three things.
First, you must get organised and build a daily routine for yourself.
Make a list of all the essential things you need to do in a day, like waking up, daily chores (brushing your teeth, bathing, etc.), working out to stay fit, eating right to stay healthy, work, entertainment, hobbies, time for family, etc.
Now allot a specific time during the day for each of them and stick to the schedule.
Do not panic if, at first, you cannot follow it strictly, perform the activities well, or miss one or two of these activities. The key is to stay committed to it. Although it may take time, you will have a clear, productive daily routine.
The daily routine will help you manage your time, draw clear boundaries between tasks, and make your day productive. It will keep you motivated and prevent you from procrastinating or sitting idle, trapped in worry.
The next thing you need to do is not to aim for perfection in your tasks. Perfectionism makes a task time-consuming and energy-draining without even yielding the desired results.
The more you try to do a task “well,” the more you overdo things, which reduces the quality of the final product. In the end, you are inevitably left feeling defeated and weak.
What you must do instead is focus on keeping things simple and natural. Be committed to the present moment and let things flow out of you. This way, you will be able to stay consistent and complete a task effortlessly, to the best of your ability, and with the best possible result.
The final thing you need to do to make inroads is develop a specialised skill. When you are not a specialist, you try to do everything under the sun, which can feel overwhelming. Ultimately, the lack of a specialised skill makes you feel like a failure at everything.
Thus, please pick up your most profound passion, dive deeper into it, and become a master at it. It will become your world, and you will no longer feel like a failure at anything. Even the things you couldn’t do well earlier will start coming to you effortlessly.
When you have made inroads in your life, you will start to feel fulfilled. It will be the turning point in your life. You will feel that your life has just begun and that a world of opportunities awaits you!
Transform Yourself
The final thing that you need to do is to transform yourself.
Transforming yourself means starting to feel successful, or at least having the potential to succeed at everything.
When you feel capable and successful, everything about you changes. The way you think, walk, or do things, everything exudes confidence. You are totally in control of yourself, and you have stopped looking back.
Being transformed changes you from someone with self-doubt to someone with unmatched self-belief. There is nothing in the world that you cannot do or achieve. It won’t be wrong to say that you have achieved your highest self!
To move from having made inroads to being transformed, you have to do three things.
First, you have to start talking less and doing more. Ultra-successful people do not reveal their plans, nor do they boast about their success. They are focused on accomplishing the job at hand one after another. Thus, you need to stop using words and start using your intelligence as your secret weapon.
The next thing you need to do to transform yourself is to take “misses” as lessons and not failures. Transformation doesn’t mean you won’t fail; it means you have changed your perspective on failure. You no longer see them as obstacles but as something that propels you. You learn from the “misses” and come back bigger and better, which nails success.
The final thing you need to do is to become a completely different person. A transformed person isn’t the old version of you doing new things. It’s an entirely new person who no longer does the old stuff. So, forget who you were and focus on who you are and what you want to become. Be on the constant path of transformation!
When you have transformed as a person, you will feel powerful. But you should never forget where you came from, not to make you feel weak, but to remind you of your roots. It will help you stay humble and grounded, ensuring you keep evolving.
Fall Eight Times, Rise Nine Times
Feeling like a failure at everything you do can feel depressing. You feel helpless, don’t know what to do, or how to overcome the situation.
But trust me, it’s not a hopeless one for sure!
I am not saying you should believe everything is OK. Please hold onto hope and believe in yourself.
When you do that, you can tear through all the challenges one after the other and walk into the light at the end of the tunnel.
To stop feeling like a failure and start feeling like a champion, you need to do four simple things:
Calm yourself down to stop seeing yourself as a failure.
Develop self-belief to convince yourself that it’s possible.
Make inroads into your life to lay down the groundwork for success.
Transform yourself forever, never to look back.
The journey may be challenging, but the path is simple. You have to stick to it, even when you feel shaken or scared. It’s OK if you falter, it’s OK if you feel scared, it’s OK if you feel stuck; the key is to pick yourself up again and continue the journey.
Remember: Every small step matters!
When you come through, failure will be just a word for you. It will no longer contain you but always inspire you to evolve!
